Sometimes it’s nice to find humor in strange places. For example, Molly loves to open and close drawers and sometimes she will attempt to do mini pull-ups whilst hanging from a drawer. Humorous, yes. Unsafe, um….yeah..
The best part about her making me laugh is that when I laugh, she laughs. She gets this HUGE toothless grin on her face and she belly laughs like my laughing at her is the funniest thing in the universe. It’s the best, happiest feeling I get lately. She also says “Mama” which I quite honestly think is her trying to say “Molly” but she cannot say “L’s” yet. She also has this roll ball with a cat on it, and it meows. When it meows, I tell her “That’s a kitty!” and she tries to say “Khhhhh” “Khhhh”. It’s like she’s hissing.
I need humor to keep me sane. I don’t talk about a lot of things that have been going on, because I like to keep the private stuff private, but I will come out and say it.
I am in the middle of a divorce. Last week H’s lawyer sent me an email with a “Proposed request for full custody of Molly”. I almost puked. Are you fucking kidding me? I mean seriously. I cried. and cried. and cried some more.
I’d love to write what I really think….but I’ll save that for a time when it cannot be used against me. Let’s just say I am really really pissed off.
So, you can blame last weeks happenings for me being kind of off the radar. I have not felt like myself and all the Zoloft in the world cannot fix it.
If you have emailed me, I will write back soon, I promise. If you have requested to join the D-List I will get you listed asap.
Thanks as always for your love and support.
Alena says:
Oh wow. I am sorry. And speechless. I hope your attorney told him where to shove his proposal.
Erin says:
Oh, my god. My jaw dropped when I read that. Unbelievable.
Try to keep laughing…for Molly’s sake and for yours.
Angela says:
I’m so sorry. I can’t belive he asked for that. When you are feeling down just look at that beautiful little girl. *Hugs*
christina says:
I am so so sorry you’re going through this. Seriously, when I read that he is filing for full custody my eyes about popped out of my head. The nerve! Hugs, and keep laughing!
Cindy A says:
I am so sorry to hear this. I am thinking about you, you are in my thoughts and prayers. Molly is beautiful
c.c. says:
there’s no way he’d get it, alissa. no way a judge would let that happen.
Laurie says:
Wow! What a jerk. With all that you go thru daily with Molly, how in the world would he even have a clue where to begin. Its almost funny to think about really, it it weren’t so darned frustrating for you. Seriously, could he REALLY do what you do every day? I DON’T THINK SO!! I am so incredibly sorry for what you are going thru. I hope you get it all worked out soon. Molly is a doll. And I’m being selfish here, but I really miss it when I don’t see daily posts and pix from you and Molly. You all are in my thoughts and prayers. xoxo
Mungee's Ma says:
Oh my g-d, I want to puke for you! I know my words through the internet can only go so far to comfort you, I wish I could do more. Keep laughing with that beautiful little girl and when you walk away with full custody of her, you can both laugh in your ex-H’s face. I am SO sorry you’re going through this.
Miranda says:
I just want to hug you right now. Or slap him. It’s a toss up. Maybe I should do both. I’m sorry you’re going through this.
cate says:
alissa,
I am so sorry to hear all that you are going through. I will keep you and little Molly in my thoughts and prayers. I know it will all work out for you but I am so sorry that the journey is going to suck. Keep the faith.
8ate
Carol Ann @ Kneedeep says:
I am so sorry to hear this. It’s stress and it sucks, but just for a ray of hope – He’s never going to get full custody, unless you are an addict, or are endangering her life, which I assume you aren’t. The courts like to keep babies with their mommies. What it will do is draw out the divorce and make you want to countersue for full custody. It sucks. It just sucks. But, eventually, it’ll all be over, you’ll be happier, and you can write the next chapter in your future! I’ll pray for strength for you.
Kristy says:
I am so sorry for what you are going through. Unimaginable. Ugh! Prayers to you. And, I love the laughter and funny stuff, that is what will help you stay sane in this hard time. My boy just rolls laughing when the cat starts to puke/cough up hair ball.
Shazia says:
I am so sorry…sending warm thoughts your way
Jo says:
Oh my goodness, I am soo soo sorry! I couldn’t imagine trying to deal with all of that.
Stay strong and keep on laughing! Your in my thoughts and prayers and I hope things get better for you really soon!
christine says:
Oh, hun! I was just popping by to say hello as I too have been a bit mia on the interwebs, but instead I’m just sending HUGS!! What a bastard. Ugh. Grrrrrr.
I’m so sorry. If you ever need to chat or anything, I’m available! You will get through this and at the end, YOU will have Molly because you are her Mom and a damn good one too!
Andrea says:
Oh my …I am just..my jaw dropped. My sister is going through the same thing (no custody battle though) and I just don’t understand it. I got divorced from my first husband and it was so so painful. We didn’t have kids and I think that was my saving grace. I can’t imaging going through it now. Praying for you.
Karen says:
Wow Alissa, I am so sorry to hear about this. My heart just broke for you reading those words. I don’t blame you for being MIA, you have certainly been missed though. Please let me know if you need anything. Praying for you and Molly.
Karen
Liza says:
Oh, sweetie, I’m so sorry. I’m sure there’s nothing new I can say that hasn’t been said already in comments, but my heart goes out to you. And, you are clearly a wonderful mom so no one will be taking baby away. At least you have your daughter’s laugh. I’m sending out all the positivity I can in your direction.
LA says:
::hugs::
He is a$# for even thinking he has right to do that. You will make it through this and it will never happen. Momma’s and Babies stay together unless there is something really wrong with the momma and that most certainly not you. But I don’t blame you for being scared, I would be terrified. If I can do a thing email me and know that you and molly will be in my thoughts and prayers daily.
Katie says:
oh hun…I want to hug you. praying for you and molly!
torie says:
I am so sorry you are going through this. I want to hug you as well! You will be in my prayers. Just take care of that sweet and beautiful girl of yours…and yourself.
Rachel says:
So sorry. Take care!
blackhuff says:
I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through a rough time and hope that it will go better soon. Strongs
Amy says:
I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this. I hope you and your Husband can come to some reasonable agreement when it comes to Molly. I’m thinking of you! Take care of yourself!
Alice says:
oh my gosh…I am so sorry. I wanted to puke when I read those words. You’re in my T&P
bluecottonmemory says:
Sometimes life is so tough – and it hurts so badly! I am sorry you are experiencing this! But I am so glad you have the laughter and joy and Molly to sustain you! Whenever I find myself in difficult circumstances with potentially difficult people, I always read psalms and put my name in those prayers. It never fails that my “enemies” stop – and God takes care of it. I’ll have to tell the story sometime, but, believe me, it is a never fail thing!
Heligirl says:
Sending you so much love and support right now. I’m glad you finally shared your burden here, sweetie. Everyone who stops in knows a little about you and most have a great deal of respect for you (the rest will as soon as they get to know you). You need all the support you can get and you’re going to get a lot from this gang. Hang in there hun and remember to fight like a girl. Molly is yours.
Tara says:
I am so sorry to hear this. It was 11 years ago. It will get better, you will heal. Hold on to your baby girl, lots of hugs and kisses help. 10 years later I have a awesome husband and baby girl and a baby girl due in November, he is a wonderful father to my 3 older sons. I know there is nothing crazier then having to “fight” with someone over a child that was born out of love. My thoughts are with you and I am willing to be a sounding board if you need one!
lanned says:
Honey…it is very hard for a man to get custody. Just remember you love your child and get everyone you can together to testify to that. I have a male friend who wanted custody of his kids and the only way he could get it was to hire a private detective and have his ex busted in a drug raid with his baby sitting in the room with the drugs. As long as everyone says you are a good mom it will never happen. Prayers with you.
Amy says:
I have been away from the blogs for a while, but I am sorry you are going through that. I hope it all works out for you and know I am thinking about you
Salena says:
Oh MY GOD! My Heart sunk for you. I want to hug you so bad and punch him so hard! Molly is YOURS, You take care of her on a daily basis, YOU provide for her, YOUR not the abusive Asshole.
I’m thinking of you!!!
Love.
Salena
Lindsey says:
I didn’t even read all the comments so I may be repeating some things….BUT I JUST got divorced! Literally 2 months ago! He let me leave the state, with our daughter, to move home to CA. But he has threatened filing for custody and I KNOW THAT SICK FEELING!! Even though I KNOW he would never get it, it still makes me sick even thinking about it. Stay strong!! You are a great mother. Just wanted to let you know that someone else is going through it too.
Leslie says:
That’s a great outlook in life. Laughter is the best medicine . I’m so sorry about what you’re going through. I hope you make it.